Posts Tagged ‘Mothers day’

There are many days in the calender that can cause even the toughest of people to crumble when facing Infertility . Usually the ones marked out with some sort of Clintons cards overload on the high street . But Mothers day for many people will be the hardest .

I remember distinctly one year when we were right in the middle of a whole load of tests and unhelpful comments from specialists sitting in church as they brought flowers round for all the mums .

And I just felt so unbearably sad .

Luckily for me I have a fantastic husband who knew just how badly this would be hurting  me and who chose to treat me like a queen anyway that day .We had a lovely meal together , went to the cinema and generally indulged in the two of us .

The hurt was still there , as it often is with Infertility , but some lovely food and a crappy film certainly went a long way in helping me to feel valued .

And perhaps thats what is important on any day that needs that extra bit of support . To be with those that make us feel that actually we are special and wonderful and living a good life , despite circumstances .

Mother or not ( YET ! ).

To take time also to value ourselves . To say a huge giant enormous well done to us for fighting and battling for something so valuable .

Dont underestimate what a lot Infertility will plonk on your plate , without being asked for !

And yet here you are , doing the best that you can . Probably ticking all the right preconception boxes , let alone the tests , the appointments the highs and lows of Infertility . You are amazing , and one way or another you will get through this . But for now stop and allow yourself a well done .

USE mothers day as a day to be self indulgent .

Use mothers day to recognise what you are facing and acknowledge your achievements thus far , be they small or big .

Use Mothers day as a day to do whatever you want and be with whoever you need to be ..it is a NO OBLIGATIONS day ! No ought to’s , should’s , or people pleasing .

And ultimately remember that Mothers day , like Christmas , like Easter , like every other clintons cards moments is tough for many more people that we know , and for many many reasons .

And just like ALL those other days it is just a day and it soon shall pass .

I hope your day is as good as it can possibly be within the circumstances , and that you buy yourself AT LEAST one huge bunch of flowers .

All best wishes

Anya