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SO… here I am day 5 of my brand new role as Fertility support coordinator for the London Women’s clinic and its been an amazing few days on so many levels .

A bit of background needed though first in that this is a role I have been in negotiations regarding for quite some time and in many ways is a continuation of the work I have been doing from home .

 Except that I don’t have to empty the dishwasher here and don’t have a cat permanently trying to sit on my keyboard …

The clinic is a fantastic one and I have had many clients come here over the years and report back encouraging things .

I think as a clinic they really are trying to move away from people feeling like they are on a conveyor belt to  being really listened to and supported through treatment

( “ I am not a number “ I hear you cry !! ) .

 Which is where my role fits in as Fertility support coordinator .

I am here to see clients individually , to run a support group and set up new workshops on such issues as stress management and coping when treatment fails .

I am also here for people to just drop in on and let off a bit of steam . And steam there often is during treatment …

Basically it is a role I am chuffed to bits to be doing and one which I hope will make a  difference to patients welfare .

So thats the overview ..here are some of the highlights from these last few weeks ..

• Met a lovely young lady about to sign up as a donor because she had been moved by reading of the need for egg donors out there . What a fantastic thing to be doing , and what an inspirational route to be taking to help others

 

• Met up with the rest of the staff here and again amazed at the great work they are doing . From the receptionist who always makes an effort even at the busiest of times to the VERY hard working nurses  , these people really are making a difference .

 

• Managed to brave it into to the staff room ( felt about 12 yrs old !) to meet members of staff ..all very friendly and supportive and managed to regain composure enough to feel 36 again ..

 

• Written various pieces for the LWC  magazine

 

• Met several new patients in waiting room and office for quick chats all at various stages of treatment . Peoples stories and paths to parenthood never cease to move and inspire me . And to remind me that we are not alone in our fertility issues .

 

• Set up plans for a new support group here at the clinic to be started and launched in next few weeks …

 

• Had large physical battle with the tea machine in waiting area and WON …1-0 to me in the battle to make a decent cuppa …YESSS !

 

More than anything I have realised again the enormity of what people face when going through infertility . The daily sadness , mingled with hope , determination and resolve . And realised again the sheer number of people facing this issue .

There is such a lot of support out there . from places like the London Women’s clinic , to the Wonderful work of INUK ( www.theinfertilitynetworkuk.com ) , to the great people using Twitter to raise awareness and comprehension .

Though lonely and frustrating there is help and support to be found .

I hope to be a part of that help and look forward to what the next few months and years will bring .

All best wishes

Anya

Fertility support coordinator and champion of the Tea machine at the London Women’s clinic

It is a cold Tuesday evening and I am a grown woman of nearly 36 reduced to a huge pulpy crying mess . Why ? Because I have just sat down and re watched the Discovery channel documentary about our road to become a family

Just before the birh of our son we received a phone call asking if my husband and I would consider being filmed for a series called ” Extreme pregnancies ” about people who had had to fight to achieve the families of their dreams . To say we fitted the bill would be an understatement !

Our story managed somehow to cover male infertility , poor ovarian reserve ,early menopause , miscarriage , immune issues ,and odds of 1 in 125,000 of ever conceiving .I almost felt like we were making it up ourselves !

And so we agreed to be part of the programme and at 8 months pregnant they started the interviews and followed the story right through to the birth of our son .

It is an amazing record of that time in our lives , of all the hurt, sadness ,anger, and dissapointment , finally culminating in a happy ending .

Watching it through again I am struck by how much we went through as a couple . As individuals  , and how well we coped .

And by ” coped ” I dont mean sailed through , but rather simply kept going , one foot in front of the other . Shouting crying and screaming along the way , one step at a time . I am immensely proud of that strength . I am immensely proud of us as a couple . And every single day I am immensely grateful for our family .

And yet . what I have just described is actually not so extraordinary , nor really so ” extreme ” . It is only what thousands of people face on a daily basis when going through Infertility .The highs and lows , sadness and crapyness that is Infertility .

I am proud then not just of myself , but sincerely for every single client , support group member and person I dont know who faces fertility issues . We are stronger than we know .

I hope you can keep going , one step at a time and give yourselves the credit you deserve .

Best wishes

Anya